individual therapy
I offer developmental, relational therapy, which means I focus on how your earliest relationships and life experiences have shaped the way you feel about yourself and relate to others.
I specialise in supporting people like you wishing to resolve childhood trauma which continues to impact you today, manage tricky family relationships and finally feel good enough.
areas i specialise in:
Attachment & Relationships
Struggling to trust or let others get close to you
Feeling anxious and insecure in romantic relationships
Fear of rejection, abandonment or being left
Finding yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships
People-pleasing, overgiving or losing yourself in relationships
Finding boundaries, intimacy or vulnerability difficult
Never having had a romantic relationship and wondering why
Struggling after a break-up, separation or difficult relationship
Family & Estrangement
Being estranged from a parent or family member
Feeling conflicted about going no-contact or setting boundaries with family
Struggling with guilt around putting yourself first
Wishing you had a different relationship with your parents
Processing a DNA discovery
Wanting to break the cycle with your own children or change unhelpful patterns in your relationships
Loss, Bereavement & Abandonment
Bereavement of someone important to you
Loss of a family member due to alcoholism or addiction through death or estrangement
Grieving a family relationship that is still alive but no longer feels possible
An absent family member
Neurodiversity
Making sense of a late ADHD or autism diagnosis
Feeling different, misunderstood or like you’ve never quite fitted in
Masking or adapting yourself to keep other people happy
Sensitivity to rejection and criticism
Feeling overwhelmed, burnt out or exhausted from constantly trying to keep up
Understanding how neurodivergence has shaped your relationships and self-esteem
we will work on:
1. the here and now
Having your feelings about current difficulties in your life, exploring what has brought you to therapy now and making sense of what is going on.
Building safety in our relationship through consistency and slowly getting to know each other.
Helping you to develop healthier habits and coping strategies in your daily life. For example, soothing anxiety, managing burnout, controlling perfectionistic behaviours or setting boundaries with dysfunctional family members.
Practice tolerating emotional intimacy and vulnerability by talking about our relationship so you can feel more comfortable doing so elsewhere.
2. past trauma
Identifying your triggers by making connections between how you are currently feeling and transferences (situations or people earlier in your life it might remind you of and relate to them as though they are the same).
Exploring childhood and family dynamics with parents and siblings to recognise how those relational patterns repeat in your current relationships so you can break the cycle.
Processing your feelings about things that happened in your past (or what didn’t but should have), so you feel less impacted by them today.
client experiences
“Harriet’s counselling sessions have set me on a more positive path…
I’ve unpicked and explored some of the more challenging aspects of my upbringing. And, gradually, I’ve gained understanding about why I behave and think the way I do. I’ve made decisions about life and work that are good for me, rather than trying to please anyone else. Thank you Harriet.”
- weekly therapy client
“I’m a completely different person now…
Harriet has taught me so much in a short space of time and given me the tools to live the life I have always dreamt of. I cannot recommend Harriet enough, it has been one of the best investments i’ve ever made.“
- weekly therapy client
“I looked forward to our sessions…
Harriet’s approach is the perfect balance between supportive and challenging. She held space with genuine warmth and care so I felt safe and able to share things about my past and thought patterns that I've not shared with anyone. I'm so glad I worked with Harriet. I'm more boundaried at work, have become more assertive in my relationships and can enjoy the ups and downs of life with more resilience and (i hope) wisdom. Thank you Harriet for such a precious gift.”
- fortnightly therapy client
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@the.good.enough.therapist