online individual therapy
Therapy for adult children of dysfunctional families
Maybe you have grown up feeling responsible for other people's emotions, learned to keep the peace, or felt that your needs were too much. Perhaps you're now struggling with boundaries, guilt, intimacy or relationships, or questioning whether you should stay connected to your family.
You can understand that your childhood affected you and still find yourself repeating the same patterns.
You don't have to keep figuring it out on your own.
You can learn to have relationships without losing yourself
Therapy can help you understand why you find certain relationships and situations so difficult, and begin to respond differently.
therapy can help with:
Setting boundaries without being overwhelmed
by guilt
Trusting your own feelings and judgement
Feeling less responsible for other people's
emotions
Understanding your role within your family
Recognising when you're slipping back into old patterns
Becoming more comfortable with intimacy and vulnerability
Processing your grief, anger for the things you
didn't receive growing up, and for what shouldn’t have happened but did
Breaking patterns you don't want to repeat in your own relationships
together we will work on:
1. The here and now
We’ll start with what is happening in your life now and what has brought you to therapy. We will explore the family dynamics and your role in the family, process your feelings about its impact on you, look at the patterns you find yourself stuck in and make sense of difficult relationships.
We’ll work together to help you feel more secure, recognise your own needs and how to manage triggers differently. Our relationship will also give you a safe place to experience what it feels like to be heard, taken seriously and accepted without having to earn it. By experiencing a different kind of relationship with me, you can begin to take those new experiences into your other relationships, becoming more emotionally available and more able to tolerate the closeness and intimacy you may have learned to protect yourself from.
2. The past
Exploring family dynamics and experiences from childhood that have shaped how you see yourself and impact your relationships today. This may be in terms of what you have learnt to expect from others, how you might protect yourself from further hurt or anxieties you have in relationships which get in the way of fully being in connection.
Together, we can begin to heal your inner child, meet their unmet relational needs, grieve what you didn’t receive, and begin to notice and change relational patterns so that you can bregin to break the cycle.
healing happens in relationship
Therapy with me isn’t just a space where you can talk about your relationships.
It’s a place where you can experience something different.
client experiences
“Harriet’s counselling sessions have set me on a more positive path…
I’ve unpicked and explored some of the more challenging aspects of my upbringing. And, gradually, I’ve gained understanding about why I behave and think the way I do. I’ve made decisions about life and work that are good for me, rather than trying to please anyone else. Thank you Harriet.”
- weekly therapy client
“I’m a completely different person now…
Harriet has taught me so much in a short space of time and given me the tools to live the life I have always dreamt of. I cannot recommend Harriet enough, it has been one of the best investments i’ve ever made.“
- weekly therapy client
“I looked forward to our sessions…
Harriet’s approach is the perfect balance between supportive and challenging. She held space with genuine warmth and care so I felt safe and able to share things about my past and thought patterns that I've not shared with anyone. I'm so glad I worked with Harriet. I'm more boundaried at work, have become more assertive in my relationships and can enjoy the ups and downs of life with more resilience and (i hope) wisdom. Thank you Harriet for such a precious gift.”
- fortnightly therapy client
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